How To Help An Alcoholic or Addict Without Going Crazy
They say it takes 21 days to break a habit or form a new habit. I dare say it only has to take 14 if you’re hell bent on creating change. That’s right.
Here’s the scenario.
You’re somehow involved with an alcoholic or addict. Maybe it’s booze, pills, heroin, food, a person, sex, porn, gambling...etcetera.
And maybe your loved one is your partner, spouse, child, friend, or relative.
Regardless of who it is, it can totally suck and you're not sure what to do.
You can experience a whole range of emotions, including anger, fear, rage, insecurity, resentment, disgust, and more.You may even feel bat-shit crazy and be worn slam down to empty.
I understand. Alcoholism has been a part of my life in some shape or form since I was a baby.
My background is mental health. I’ve worked with addicts, lived with a recovering addict, been addicted to various substances and people at times, and have watched loved ones suffer (and die) as a direct result of the disease of alcoholism and addiction.
These days, I write a lot of content for the addiction field as a ghost writer. I also moderate an online recovery forum. (Recovery.org) Do you know who comes on the forum most to share, vent, and ask questions?
Not the alcoholic or addict.
The loved ones.
The wives, husbands, partner, moms, dads, siblings, and friends that are either in a crisis wondering what the heck to do, or just so tired of the roller coaster ride that goes along with addiction.
Some are scared. Like the mom who can’t fall asleep because she is so worried about her son or daughter, praying to God she won’t get THAT phone call tonight.
Or the wife who is faced with having to finally decide whether to leave her substance abusing husband after listening to his empty promises for years.
Or the husband who can’t take one more day of his wife’s accusations, clinginess, and role as energy vampire...trying to control his every minute in life out of the fear of being abandoned.
And so many more scenarios.
They’re so freakin’ tired of the lies, the denial, the inability to get themselves together, and watching them suffer.
They’re worn out. They’re angry. Their petrified, hurting, resentful, frustrated, and oftentimes ready to lose it!
Hope for YOU
So, I thought I’d put together an intense 14 day “let’s get right down to it” course to help those who are on the opposite side of an alcoholic or addict get a firm grip on their own lives.
This course will answer many of your questions about addiction, as well as help YOU get started on your own recovery.
After all, addiction affects EVERYONE...not just the addict.
Here is a crash course in the disease of addiction and how you can navigate YOUR life well, even when your loved one is battling the disease of addiction.
It’s a guidebook. A navigation map.
It’s not the “cure all”, but it is a helpful resource to give you some valuable tools to get your emotional sanity back AND work on your “stuff”. (Come on. You know you have some “stuff” to work on.)
Yes, YOU can help your addicted loved one, but the best way you can help them is to focus on YOU. If you become crazy trying to "fix" him or her, that's not really helping anyone.
Here’s a taste of what you’ll be getting:
- Embracing YOUR recovery
- Recognizing enabling behaviors
- Learning to say no
- Where to find support
- Taking responsibility for your happiness
- Communicating with the substance abuser
- Letting go in a healthy way
- And more!
Each day, you will receive an email from me with a lesson, offering insights and practical advice.
You have the option to email me with your thoughts and concerns. I will respond via email, and include additional options for support and resources should you need. Due to time constraints, I cannot email lengthy replies often. Should you need additional support, contact me about Life Coaching.